Me and josh made a bit of a pact the other night; to have more adventures.
It might be all this new year stuff flying around, but I got to thinking about happiness. Being happy myself, but most importantly being happy together.
Josh makes me laugh everyday, he looks after me, he frustrates me just enough to keep me on my toes, he loves me (and showers me in that love) but he’s not happy. He hates his work, he doesn’t love where we live, he doesn’t create anymore, he doesn’t sing out loud cooking anymore and he’s bored.
And you know what, I’m bored too. I too have lost my spark, my get up and go, the fight in me is withering, grinding down to monotony. Last year was a tough year for me in terms of unemployment, depression, serious anxiety, but most of all loosing the joy in life.
Anyone who knows me knows that I crave adventure, going places, doing things, meeting people. It’s probably because growing up my mum always told me I could do anything, be anyone. That sense of not being fixed on a certain course, not having to do what everyone else is doing is something I’ll always be eternally grateful to her for. So the idea of getting a good job, working towards owning a home, having children (pretty much in that order) has never sat right with me.
We are, of course, incredibly lucky in many ways, we have money in our pocket, a roof over our heads, a car to drive. But let me get real with you, apart from this blog, there hasn’t been anything in the last year that’s filled me with excitement. I’m also not talking about working hard to have a holiday for a week once a year, that is a quick fix that doesn’t actually fix anything. But I want us to want to get up the next day. I don’t want us to work hard at jobs we don’t enjoy to have a week in the sun, or a new car in a year or two. I also don’t want to keep throwing away our money on expensive rents in a house that can’t be our home, a flat that isn’t quite right or simply just a roof over our heads.
I’m not a complete daydreamer, I know money doesn’t grow on trees, I know you only get back what you put in. But if what you get back is more boredom, stress or long hard slogs towards something half decent – count us out.
We’re going to go on adventures. We might pack up our jobs and move abroad, or we might just change jobs and find somewhere better.
But, Josh and I – we ain’t doing to same.
I think we owe ourselves and each other that. More of the same will get us nowhere, and I don’t know about you, but nowhere sounds pretty boring to me.
So here’s to more adventures. To eating food you have no idea what it is because you can’t read the menu, to walking somewhere because it was better than staying still, to talking because it was better than silence, to sleeping in an uncomfortable bed because you didn’t check the hotel reviews, to swimming because there wasn’t a boat, to dancing because no ones watching – here’s to something!
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